Radha and Raman were 2 young dynamic individuals who by the age of 25 had a great job, were earning great bucks, traveling the world, partying every weekend, wore only branded stuff. In Mumbai where realty prices are skyrocketing, they owned a 4 bedroom hall kitchen in a posh area in South Mumbai. Both were college sweethearts and dated each other for over 7 years. They finally decided to take the plunge and tied the knot. It was beautiful and memorable destination wedding in Greece. They had pre-wedding photo shoot, wore designer stuff, and had a grand wedding like the celebrities. In total, anyone would be envious of this young couple. They had it all in such a young age. They were the perfect example of the “happily ever after” couple. But an acquaintance told me that they had filed for divorce within 6 months of marriage citing incompatibility issues. I was surprised. What went wrong? A middle-class girl like me always believed that financial stability was equivalent to a happy marriage!
My mind went back to the year 2001 when a tall lanky guy and I met at an arranged marriage setup. Generally in arranged marriage set-ups the girl’s looks and the guy’s job are given importance. We both met and clicked instantly and said YES instantly. I liked his disarming simple smile and may be he liked my simplicity too! Oh yes! I was 5 feet to his 6 feet and I didn’t bother to ask how much he earned or what property he owned.
We got married and began our marital journey in a humble 1 BHK of Mumbai with both of us jointly earning 15,000/- per month. But trust me, we were so happy with each other! The local train rides, the street food shared together, the joy of being happy with each other was precious. We had our first child within first year of marriage. Our son became a part of our happy life. We never bothered about buying expensive toys for him, our love was sufficient.
So, is it love or money?
I believe love, respect, compatibility, accepting each other with all the flaws, not having high expectations, letting go sometimes, and communication are the keys to a successful marriage. If money would have been the key to a great marriage, no celebrity would have divorced.
Money is important for a successful marriage but love and respect are invaluable.
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Written for the prompt “Love or Money?”
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Yes i totally agree with you dear… Money फिर love is important… Well written
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Interesting analysis and articulation. I believe Trust is the core to any successful and happy marriage…happiness follows automatically. Well said !!
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Thanks for taking out time to read my blog and giving your feedback. Means a lot.
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I agree Ritwika. Finance do matters, in fact it matters a lot, but it’s can’t define or bound a relationship. Thought provoking post.
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Thanks a lot for reading and giving your feedback. Means a lot.
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It’s a good one.love and respect are very much essential for a successful marriage..what happened to Radha n raman? just wanted to know,in case you know please let us convey too…
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Radha and Raman parted ways unfortunately. Thanks for taking out time to read my blog.
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Yes, successful marriages are beyond money, status and tangible things. What matters the most is understanding and compatibility.
#vdayblogtrain
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Thanks for reading and liking my blog. Good to know that we think alike!
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Well said. Cliched as it may sound, love still is the more important ingredient. As they say, love may not make the world go round but it sure makes the ride worth it’s while.
Wish you all happiness
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Thanks Shivani for your wonderful comments.
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Loved the story and loved the end message. indeed money is important but not more than the love, trust and care that a couple should have on each other. #Vdayblogtrain
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Thank you for reading and appreciating. Means a lot.
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Thanks for sharing your story with us. Love and Money are both important in their own right. We have to be the judge for knowing how important.
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Thanks for reading my blog Mayuri and I totally concur with your thoughts.
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What a crisp and beautiful way to celebrate your live for the one who is more than any money or material possessions.
Love is indeed the essence rest all is just the frills. Good one Ritwika, you never disappoint 🙂
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Thanks a lot Praggati for sparing time to read my blog and appreciating it. Loved your feedback.
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*Love
Typo error
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Its okay.
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No amount of money can save a loveless relationship. Love is the most important component that makes the journey a pleasure ride. Nicely written.
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Thanks a lot for taking out time to read and appreciating my blog Maneet. Really means a lot.
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I really liked your sweet and heartfelt post, especially the part about your relationship with your husband. I wish you had made the portion even more detailed!
#VDayBlogTrain
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Thanks a lot for reading and appreciating my blog. Might be a detailed story of my 17 years of married life in another blog!
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So agree with you Ritwika, money is important, but what will money do if there is no love, trust and respect. They are the most important for any relationship to survive.
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Thank you for reading my blog and giving your feedback.
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love, respect and trust are three pillars of a successful marriage. emotions always come first than financial status. nice post.
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Thanks a lot for taking out time to read and giving your feedback. Really appreciate it.
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I believe love n money both r important but at wat levels tat u ve to decide, one cannot fill Ur tummy with love u need money to get u food n survive.. but yes love shld b heavier than money😊
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Thanks for taking out time to read. Yes..money is important for survival, no doubt about that, but money can be earned but love cannot be bought.
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Loved reading every bit of it. Marriage without love is like a body without a soul. Lifeless. And money can always be made, but one has to be lucky enough to have found true love.
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Thank you for reading and appreciating my blog Aakriti. Means a lot.
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Such profound advice…while money might be important it definitely cannot be the be all and end all of a relationship… Love, respect and trust truly makes a relationship…well said!
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Thanks for reading and appreciating my blog. Means a lot.
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Money can help in the success of marriage but trust and respect to each other are of utmost importance.
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Thanks for reading and giving your valuable feedback on my blog Ramya.
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A wonderful post! it’s always love, and respect that keeps us growing!
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Thanks for reading and appreciating Vidhya.
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It is true how many equate money to happiness. Marriages are made in heavan, thats true, but it grows only on mutual trust, love and respect for each other. Beautiful story Ritwika, as always.
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Thanks for reading and appreciating it Mandavi. Means a lot coming from you.
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Money can bring food to your table but without love of your loved ones you won’t feel any joy in eating it. It can come and go but love is what stays. Simple inexpensive things give us happiness, the brands are just to show-off to others. 🙂
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Thanks so much for reading and giving your valuable feedback. Truly appreciate it.
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I remember reading one of your articles on Momspresso where you had mentioned about your marriage journey and that you guys were earning 15k together but money never came in between your happiness. That story is still with me, its impact was huge because even I believe its more about the compatibility and the mutual trust, love and respect instead of exotic holidays and solitaires. Nice post, Ritwika.
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Thanks a lot for reading and giving your lovely feedback Vartika. Really appreciate it.
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Wow ritwika, how precisely you have mentioned about love in one sweet post… I enjoyed reading every line and I can’t agree more – The joy of being happy with each other is more precious.
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Thanks for reading and loving my blog. Appreciate your feedback.
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I completely agree with you on that money can’t be equal to love. And I like it how you have build up your life with your husband from such humble beginnings. It reminded me of my parents who had similar roots. More power to you and your family.
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Thanks a lot for reading and appreciating. Much love.
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Yes Love and respect are utmost importance in a relationship, money always comes second position in comparison to Love.
Cheers
MeenalSonal
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Thanks a lot for reading and giving your feedback. Really appreciate it.
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I am reminded of that song.. “Tera sath hai toh mujhe kya kami hai” isnt it the case.. We together will create our happy space 🙂
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One of my favorite songs too! Thanks for reading my blog. Appreciate it.
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Another amazing blog Ritwika. We also had our share of financial ups and downs as a couple. It has lead to better understanding and a strong foundation to our relationship.
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Thanks for reading and liking my blog Priyam. Stay blessed and happy always.
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Very important point that you have mentioned- money without love and respect is nothing. I liked reading your blog.
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Thanks for reading and appreciating my blog Shraddha.
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Love trust is the strong pillar of relationship. Money have no importance more than it. Enjoyed reading the story.
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Thanks a lot for reading and appreciating my blog.
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Money and ‘Honey’ not necessarily make the best pair! Though money is essential for basic sustenance of life, it can never get you a soul mate. Good to see that your love nest is full of joy of togetherness and warmth Ritwika. God bless you and your family.
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Your story touched my heart, I agree money is important but when it comes to love only understanding , trust ,respect matters a lot and offcourse love too
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Thank you so much for reading and appreciating my blog.
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I’m so glad that you picked this prompt and broke the monotony. I enjoyed reading about your perspective. Your honesty and simplicity was beautifully captured in your words.
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Thanks a lot for appreciating Prerna. Means a lot coming from you.
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beautifully written and well-articulated yaa.. stayed glued till the last lines
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Thanks a lot Misha.
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Love and respect are the only things neede for survival of relation. Money can be earned or lost any day. But love stays forever.
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Well said Disha and thanks for reading my blog.
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I remember, recently one Youtuber was asked by her viewers whether she married her husband for money because she got married at a young age. How can people have so cheap mindset 😫
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Seriously what kind of question was that?? Pity the mentality.
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Love and understanding stand above all and money is a medium to approach materialism in life…great post
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Thanks a lot Ila for reading and appreciating my blog.
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money comes and goes and i have personally experienced this. what remains is just love, respect and understanding in the end. lovely post. #vday #blogtrain
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Thank you so much Princy.
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